YOU ARE TOO AWARE.
ARE YOU HAPPY ABOUT THAT?
By Namita Gujral
At any given time, 1 in 5 people in the room is experiencing the moment with greater emotional intensity than the other four. And since moments make up life, in any given moment, 1 in 5 people is experiencing life itself more intensely than others.
This person knows it. And he is pissed off.
“Why do I take things so seriously? Why do I care when others don’t seem to? Why do I feel more intensely than others? Why am I so sensitive?”
Up to 20% of the population come with a personality trait that makes them more sensitive: The Highly Sensitive Personality Trait.
Among many things, this trait makes you more aware and process stimuli more deeply than those who do not have the trait (80-85%).
A large chunk of HSPs have come to equate this as a fatal flaw in their inherent makeup.
And that is a very sad conclusion.
The trait has so many benefits and advantages, but because it’s often misunderstood, many of those advantages never get a chance to come to the surface.
We remain so locked up in trying to fight our sensitivity with a goal to get it to go away. Why? What has caused us to be so upset with the way we are that we actually want to be someone we’re not?
I think because we don’t understand sensitivity holistically, we’ve made some serious errors in interpreting what it means to be a sensitive person.
Can we try to clear out some misunderstandings?
In this three-part HSP series, we’re digging deeper into what it means to be an HSP, what misunderstandings of the trait we’re caught up in and how we can become more at peace with ourselves.
This is Part 1.
You have an innate ability to see more. Are you happy about that?
The Highly Sensitive Personality Trait is characterized by a high awareness, particularly of subtleties in the environment.
We’re not just highly aware of our external environment (people, the world, what we take in through our senses), but we’re also highly aware of our internal environment (our own thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations and memories).
So you’re not just faster in noticing the more obvious things, such as how many people there are in room and the way the furniture is arranged, but also the subtleties happening among these things, such as the body language of people, their energies and shifts in moods.
And it doesn’t stop there. While you’re aware of what’s outside of you, you’re also aware of what’s happening inside of you. “My heart is racing while talking to this standoffish woman.”