THE BIGGEST FIGHT OF THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON
By Namita Gujral
A three-part series on how to thrive a highly sensitive person. This is Part 2.
Imagine you and your friend go to the gym for a week.
She does light walking on the treadmill 2 times this week for 30 minutes each time. You run 90 minutes for 5 days.
Whose muscles have worked more? Whose muscles need more rest to get ready for next week’s training?
You or your friend?
It’s the same situation between HSP and non-HSP.
In Part 1, we came to understand that HSPs come with an innate ability to notice more. More of what? More of the subtleties. The subtleties of what? I have to say..of everything.
If you’re an HSP, this will not require much explanation. You’ll get it right away.
You pick up details happening around you that 80% of people miss.
Tim looks pensive. He didn’t yesterday. Seems like he’s having trouble getting his words out. There’s a kind of heaviness in his voice. He also seems distracted, lost in his thoughts. Meanwhile, his wife Rita doesn’t seem to be looking at him. She’s addressing everyone else in the group, but she’s not looking at Tim. Something seems wrong. Maybe something has happened between them.
You tell your friend Sandy “Did you notice Tim and Rita both seemed different today,”
Sandy shrugs. “Nope. Should we get more cake?”
Classic case. Sandy doesn’t see these subtleties. You do.
For HSPs, noticing the subtleties isn’t just restricted to noticing people. It could be anything in the environment. The room smells different, it smells like my childhood friend’s perfume. This song has few beats that sound like the song on the radio yesterday.
Do you make these things up? How come you pick up things that 80-85% of the people around you don’t see? Is this some disordered hyper vigilance? Is your awareness intentional? Something that you manufactured? Something that you consciously control?
Your higher awareness is part of a trait that you have and that others don’t. It’s biological. There are brain differences that make HSPs more attentive to stimuli.
“Most people walk into a room and perhaps notice the furniture, the people—that’s about it. HSPs can be instantly aware, whether they wish to be or not, of the mood, the friendships and enmities, the freshness or staleness of the air, the personality of the one who arranged the flowers.” – Dr. Elaine Aron
What then happens with this higher awareness?
HSP’s Depth of Processing
Along with higher awareness, HSP brains also deeply process all the extra information coming in. HSP brains automatically start organizing this data and start to make sense of it.
Notice how you saw the subtleties of Tim, but then your brain automatically starts processes the information to organize it?
“Tim looks pensive” doesn’t stop there. The HSP brain automatically starts the deep processing. “He didn’t yesterday”…