If you’re an intellectual you’re sexy, but if you intellectualize you’re using a defense mechanism.
The problem is that it’s not so easy to know which side I’m on, and when that is happening. Start with the definition. Intellectualization is defined as an attempt to keep yourself removed from feeling emotions.
As we can guess, the line between when you’re using your mind for wise action and when you’re using it for emotional suppression is often blurry.
Check out mindfulness. At a very high level, doesn’t mindfulness ask us to watch our automatic thoughts, impulses and feelings from the place of “observing” them instead of “being” them? In a sense, mindfulness is saying you don’t have to “be” your feelings. Isn’t intellectualization trying to do the same thing?
What if I come with an innate personality trait (HSP) that just makes me process information and subtleties very deeply? In the head, that’s a whole lot of intellectual stimulation for about 20% of the population. Could it be that what’s normal and innate for me has been confused with a defense mechanism?
What about IQ? Studies after studies show a high correlation between someone with anxiety to also have a high IQ. This high IQ gives many rewards. We're better at solving problems, getting creative and making shit happen. So if we’re trying to solve our troubles, what’s wrong with that?
If you’re in such a state, ask yourself a simple question.
Why am I doing what I’m doing? Am I trying to discipline the mind, even if compassionately? If so, does it even listen? And more so, does it need to listen?