It can be terribly confusing, can't it?
One part of you wants, more than anything in the world, to fight your fears, so that you can finally start living your life.
But the second part of you just doesn't care where the first part wants to go. It wants to keep you stuck in your fears, your regrets, your painful past and in a forever compromised life.
Why does this happen to you? And more importantly, how come the fear always wins?
Why can't my mind believe in good things happening for me?
If you’ve been struggling with anxiety, by now you’re probably overwhelmed with the questions that haven’t gone answered.“Why do I suffer from this terrible disease?”
“Why can’t I just get over it?”
“Why hasn’t therapy worked?”
“Why does a happy life seem out of my reach?”
“Why hasn’t medication cured me?”
“Why can’t I be a normal person?”
Anxiety is painful for two reasons.
Firstly, the thoughts, symptoms and sensations are unbearable in the moments when anxiety strikes. Your mind and body feel completely hijacked and out of control. You feel like you've gone crazy. You want to do everything possible to move past the fears, but the fearful thoughts just don't let you.
If it’s not a ‘scary’ thought, it’s other kinds of distressing.
Critical. Depressing. Dismissive. Humiliating. Creepy.
The force, momentum and speed of these negative thoughts and their ability to multiply into new ones of the SAME terrifying kind is the very process that makes anxiety so unbearable. It’s the overall experience of having absolutely no control over your mind that makes the sufferer think he’s gone crazy.
IS YOUR SOLUTION ANOTHER PROBLEM?
But there's one more thing that happens that makes anxiety even worse.
And that is witnessing how all my efforts to bring myself back to safety and sanity fail.
100% of anxiety sufferers do the only two things they think are their options.
They try one, then the other and hope that either will work.
Strategy 1 - I agree with my negative thoughts and try my best to prevent the danger they predict is coming my way. “Yes, doom is on its way and I’ll do everything it takes to prevent it”.
Strategy 2 – I argue with them. “No, this is not true, I’ll do everything it takes to disprove them”
Unfortunately, both strategies result in behavioral choices that spiral us in a negative direction. Because both are reactions based on taking your thoughts literally.
Each unsuccessful experience in losing to your thoughts becomes yet another blow to your self-esteem and your dreams of conquering anxiety.
Your core, deep-rooted belief starts becoming that conquering your fears is impossible; otherwise it would have happened.
You start believing that life is out to get you. All your energy goes into battling these demons. Where's the time or opportunity left for living?
Even doctors haven’t really given clear answers. Many of them have written off anxiety as a complicated, inexplicable mental illness with limited hope for a natural recovery. They say there's no known cause and hence, no such known, real, promised cure.
Medicines are supposed to help us cope, but more often than not, they don't deliver even that. How can they? After all, how can a pill be designed to treat something whose cause or cure is claimed not to be clearly known?
What about therapy? After all the work we do in undertsanding, analyzing, processing and challenging our negative thoughts and behaviors, why hasn't that been enough?
What more can I possibly do?
Why does the fear still stay?
Why is anxiety so complicated?
And in the meanwhile, while all these questions have remain unanswered, my life has gone unlived.
IF THIS IS YOU, YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Thousands of anxiety sufferers have the exact same story on rinse, wash and repeat.
This was my story too.
For 25 years of my life.
I've had every possible anxiety diagnosis given to me. GAD, OCD, Panic Disorder, Social Anxiety, Agoraphobia, PTSD, Hypochondria. And some labels, I hadn't even heard of.
Just like you, I wanted to do whatever it takes to get better and get my life back.
Just like you, I thought that I have no choice but to keep going at it, hoping that some day something will work. My fears will go away. My life will be handed back to me.
And just like you, I tried my best.
And just like you, I kept seeing how little to nothing really works.
I did everything everyone told me to do.
✔ I listened to the cognitive behavior therapists and challenged my negative thoughts.
✔ I listened to the psychoanalysts and analyzed my subsconscious.
✔ I listened to the psychiatrists and tried the medications.
✔ I listened to my friends who told me to get over it.
✔ I listened to the spiritual leaders who asked me to create positive vibes which the universe will throw back at me.
✔ I listened to my family who asked me to accept my illness.
✔ I listened to the doctors who asked me to distract myself with the right job and relationship.
✔ I listened to my own self who asked me to keep trying till I get it.
I say it again.
I did everything everyone told me to do. I worked hard. I tried my best. Little to nothing worked.
But things changed for me.
In fact, things changed so drastically that not only did I overcome anxiety and all its types that plagued me for life, but I have now reached a pretty decent version of a self I had only ever dreamed of.
I don't ask to cope with life anymore. I live it.
I don't react to it. I create it.
I am no longer a hapless billiard ball on the table being tossed around by anxiety. Now, I'm the player of my own life.
What happened and how did I do it?
Not only has this framework worked for me, but I now support people from all over the world recover from anxiety, when they say everything before has failed to help them.
If you too are tired of battling anxiety and not living your life, I invite you to:
This program shows you first, why, and then, how to stop fighting the rigged war against your own anxiety, and instead learn how to walk into the life you've been waiting for.
Your thinking mind will be trained to resist. I'm ready for your resistance, in fact I'll be waiting for it with open arms. This resistance comes from years of you believing and doing the things that logic and good sense tell you are normal, reasonable and dependable. But they're wrong, aren't they? If they could really fix your worries, then why haven't they?
This program presents to you an alternative perspective to anxiety - 'A Different Way'.
Anxiety could be not what you've been thinking it to be thus far. And if that turns out to be true, you'll obviously agree that different strategies are needed to overcome it.
'A Different Way' helps you to pull back the curtain on what you know hasn't worked for you. It will then introduce to you what does work. But it's not going to do that with my word, my command, or my claimed wisdom. You will experience the framework of this program, through a targeted, step-by-step structure, and practical exercises. After each set of readings and exercises, you will be asked to be honest with yourself about the results you see. Based on these results, you will have clarity on what to do next. You will then be given targeted tools to help you steer yourself in that direction - in the direction of your values and goals.
If you do this program correctly, you will be armored with tools, training and personal proof that will influence you for life. Not just for now, while you're struggling with this thing called "anxiety". But even for your journey going forward.
In fact, my clients tell me that this wasn't a course for them for just anxiety. It was a course on how to navigate life when your own mind is not fully on board. Who cares if we call that condition an anxiety, a depression or just a normal struggle with life that almost every human will eventually experience? What does matter is whether I have the training to deal with it. This program wants to give you that training.
Because life, as we have it, will continue to deliver its ebbs and flows to every single one of us. The difference this time on will be our ability, in fact maybe even our willingless, to participate in it fully and unconditionally. Yes, we can learn how to do it, despite everything we've been through.
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